Leadership: Remembering your mom saying “behave yourself”
A book regarding constructive and destructive leadership behaviors.
We have fond memories of our mom. Raising a house full of boys required her to engage in discipline, a little scolding, and offering us some great advice. One phrase we heard over and over again was “Behave yourself.” Was she telling us to behave because she knew that one day, decades in the future, her children would be organizational leaders and need to know that behaving ourselves would be an essential component of our personal and professional leadership success? Probably not. She told us to behave because we were misbehaving. Her admonitions proved extremely valuable in building our morals, character, and personality, yet at the time, she simply wanted her boys to obey the rules, not get in trouble, not get hurt, and grow up to be decent, honest people. What does all of that have to do with leadership? As leaders, we must recognize that the manner in which we behave (act, decide, communicate, participate, and interact with others) matters and it matters to others. Behaviors matter personally, professionally, and organizationally. So, reflect back to your childhood, recognize that much of your personality, who you are, what you have become, what you do, and how you do it is a result of someone in your life that cared, that instilled some form of a value system within you, and ultimately influenced who you are as a leader. Somebody inspired you to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more. Now it’s your time to return the favor!